When the first child is born, it usually does not occur to us to lament over his gender. Boy or girl - what's the difference? After all, there is an opportunity to try again. And further. And we love the firstborn unconditionally, without any expectations, with 100% acceptance in our hearts. And when for the first time we are given him in our arms, it seems that it was him (her) that we always wanted, dreamed of, saw in a dream. We close our eyes with gratitude and quietly rejoice.
Question: what prevents you from responding with the same joy to subsequent children of the same sex?
Attitudes and the illusion that something depends on us. Children are not just the result of physiological processes, they are a blessing. We can want children or not, want a girl or a boy, one or a dozen, now or in a year - but it is not in our will. Those who got pregnant on schedule or “choosed” the sex of the child according to all sorts of signs, dates of birth, stars, etc., may object that this is a process controlled by a person. In fact, it only means that they have already been blessed with the gift of birth. Hence the illusion arises that the birth of a new life is exclusively within the competence of man. But then anyone, or rather anyone, could become pregnant at the right time for her. But that's not how it happens.
Someone dreams of a baby for years, someone fails to become a mother for the second time, although the first is easy and even “accidentally”, someone does not want to at all and is protected like a soldier before mine clearance, but still sees two stripes in test. Children are not always a matter of our choice or desire, perseverance and perseverance. After all, there are our desires from past incarnations, there are karmic tasks for the current one, the influence of the planets and the environment.
According to the Vedas (this is just one of the versions), if in a past life we behaved cruelly towards children, then in this life we need to “try” very seriously in order to become parents. If we had a dozen and a half children and all were boys, and we passionately wanted a girl, then, most likely, this time there will be only girls (because our desires migrate along with the soul to a new body and are realized in the first place - this is karma , working out our thoughts and actions from the past), if we were childless and suffered from this for many years, dreaming of being realized as a mother, then in this life there is a chance to become pregnant even from a window open at night. If, being a tortured mother of many children, our dream was to “live for ourselves”, then now it will be much more difficult to acquire offspring.
This understanding of things helps to take a position of humility and acceptance. This is not a call to quit everything and not make any attempts to be able to conceive and endure, this is just an attempt to pacify our pride, who believes that medicine is omnipotent, that we can calculate the sex in advance or decide which zodiac sign the baby will be born. The stronger this conviction, the greater the disappointment. The universe has many ways to bring us to our senses and put us in our place: pregnancy after ten years of unsuccessful attempts or a week after being discharged from the hospital, seven boys in a row, an “accidental” pregnancy from a lover with a diagnosis of “infertility” or a tenth failed IV attempt with absolutely healthy analyzes and physical well-being.
So if you ever want to grieve about your same-sex children, just think about all the possible scenarios and remember your first state of boundless happiness and gratitude to fate for the first one that appeared in your life. Only such feelings and emotions are better to cultivate in yourself and demonstrate to all your children.
The exact number or percentage of homosexual couples is unknown, but every year there are more and more of them. The most important question that worries the public is whether a child will adopt the sexual orientation of his parents.
There are no official statistics that would confirm or refute this statement, because people began to speak openly about homosexuality only from the beginning of the 80s, and not much time has passed since then. The generation that can be used to determine whether upbringing affects a child's sexual orientation has not yet grown up. The public needs longer studies.
Will the child inherit the orientation of the parents
The formation of orientation is influenced not only by upbringing, but also by genetics. Sometimes childhood trauma is the cause of homosexuality. But like all families, the psychological climate in couples depends on the relationship of partners. After all, there are a lot of families where the atmosphere is unfavorable for raising children. Couples can be kind and gentle, or they can not let their child down - these things affect much more than the sexual orientation of the parents.
How they talk about "it" in same-sex couples
Sooner or later, any child will ask the question: “Where did I come from?” As a rule, same-sex parents never say that he was born from two men or from two women. They explain to their child the truth about where babies come from. Only their own individual case is explained in their own way, depending on the age of the baby.
Usually people brought up in same-sex families, treat both homosexual and heterosexual couples equally well, in contrast to those who were brought up by parents of opposite sexes. But basically, everything depends not on gender, but on the parents themselves and on the methods of their upbringing. If a child grew up in love and mutual understanding, then everything will be fine with his psyche, regardless of who raised him.
If a child sees sexual intercourse between such a couple
Sane people understand that sex scenes should not be shown to any parents. If this happens, then it is a very serious trauma for the child, whether the parents are at least heterosexual, even homosexual. And the stereotype that gays use a child as an attachment to their sexual games is a myth. This extreme can happen if the parents of any orientation are not in order with the psyche.
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Why do I only have boys? This question will be asked by any woman in whose family a third little “man” has appeared. What specific factors affect the gender of the baby? Are there methods to control the future sex of the baby? Let's try to figure it out.
Why do some men only have boys?
Which of the partners specifically affects the sex of the unborn child remains a mystery to scientists. At first glance, everything seems obvious: the sex is determined by the man, since his sperm can contain one of two chromosomes - X or Y. At the same time, the female egg is “deprived” of choice and can boast of having only the X chromosome. Accordingly, the sex depends on whether which male spermatozoon will “survive” and reach its goal.
At the same time, scientists conducted a number of additional studies, revealing patterns in mothers with many children, who have only girls, and mothers who, without exception, have future men. First of all, these patterns are associated with the physical indicators of the woman's body. Therefore, to the question “Why do I only have boys?” there cannot be a clear answer. Perhaps the point is in the man and the "survivability" of a certain type of spermatozoa. Or maybe female body independently chooses which spermatozoon to “accept” and which “to prodynamite”.
Is it possible to influence the gender of the child?
Along with the question “Why are only boys born in the family?” many parents think about whether they can influence the future sex of the child. The desire to keep everything under control in this regard is not a new fashion trend: it has existed since ancient times. And here men played a big role: basically they raised a stir around the sex of their child, because everyone wanted to have an “heir” by all means.
Medical scientists have tried to put aside all prejudices and make independent observations. Its purpose is to identify patterns that theoretically can affect the sex of the baby. Here's what they found out:
- For most couples, the first child is a boy. But with each subsequent pregnancy, giving birth to a small "man" becomes more and more difficult.
- How older parents the less likely they are to see their child as a boy.
- In men suffering from gout, predominantly girls are born, and in bald men - boys.
- If a woman becomes pregnant some time after an abortion, then most likely a girl will be born.
These are just observations and speculations. It is impossible to consider them as immutable rules, which is shown by the experience of many married couples.
How does the environment affect the health of men and the gender of their child?
If you try to seriously explain why some men in the family give birth to girls one after another or boys one after another, doctors will most likely “write off” this situation as unfavourable conditions or health problems.
So why do some people only have boys? How do doctors explain this?
It is assumed that the Y-chromosomes (providing the male sex of the child) are less stable, therefore, harmful working conditions, constant stress, weakening the male body, contribute to their destruction. This also includes factors such as the use of alcohol, nicotine or aggressive medicines. Again, you need to consider the presence or absence of chronic diseases.
However, it is not fully scientifically proven. If we unquestioningly follow this logic, then men in general would have died out long ago: where in our time without stress and at least one bad habit? Only girls would be born!
When do you have to make love to have a girl?
When a woman asks the question “Why do I only have boys?”, She should remember her children. Well, at least approximately.
It has been scientifically established that Y-chromosome carrier spermatozoa are very light and mobile. But at the same time, they are characterized by weak stability. Therefore, such a sperm is unlikely to fertilize an egg if it is not in the ovulation stage.
But more tenacious X-spermatozoa can “wait” for their “star” hour for a long time after entering the female body. As a result, in such a struggle, the X-spermatozoon, which provides the female gender of the unborn child, will undoubtedly win.
Therefore, when a couple is planning children and really wants, for example, a boy, it is necessary to make love during ovulation. If there is a desire to give birth to a girl, then conception must be carried out immediately after menstruation.
Nutrition and gender of the child
This method of planning a child, such as dieting, does not lose popularity. Why do men only have boys? Nutritionists have an answer to this question: it’s just that the wife of such a man adheres to a sodium-potassium diet!
The "dietary" experiment was carried out by some Jacques Laurent and Joseph Stolkowski. Nutritionists claim that 2-3 months before conception, a certain number of couples were transferred to food “for boys” and “for girls”. Positive results were observed in 80% of cases.
Of course, diet alone will not solve the issue of the sex of the child, but in the fight for your dream, all means are good. So if you dream of a boy, lean with the whole family on potatoes, meat, lentils, bananas and oranges more often. Couples who follow a sodium-magnesium diet and eat large amounts of beets, carrots, eggplant and onions are more likely to become parents of a girl.
The dangers of diets
Diets are unpredictable. Therefore, expectant mothers are generally not recommended to experiment much in this area. For example, it is well known that dietary restrictions and all sorts of "exotic" eating methods cause spontaneous miscarriages.
Even if conception has occurred, but the mother continues to sharply limit herself in some products, then the fetus may have health problems in the future. It is especially important to eat a balanced diet in the early stages of pregnancy, when the internal organs of the baby are formed. Therefore, sodium-potassium, sodium-magnesium diets may be effective, but you need to know the measure in everything.
Why do women only have boys? Several good reasons
However, the debate about the ability to control the sex of the child does not end there. Some families try to conceive a child immediately after menstruation, but they still have a "boyfriend", although they planned a girl.
“Why do I only have boys?” - a young mother laments, who, among the army of little peanuts, wants to have a future assistant - a girl. This is the time to recall a few more studies conducted by Western scientists.
- It was noticed that asthenic girls weighing less than 54 kg girls are born with enviable regularity. The ladies "in the body" have boys.
- In the animal environment, it has been observed that females that have undergone starvation or any other severe stress give birth to female cubs. Strong and well-fed animals, on the contrary, "prefer" to bear boys. There is no reason to argue that this principle does not work for people who are also considered to be "animals" in some way.
- The intensity of sexual relations also affects the gender of the unborn baby. If, within three months before conception, intimate life is more than regular and even saturated with vivid emotions, then a boy is born. It has also been observed that men who push themselves too hard in the gym or on the treadmill ( we are talking about distances more than 8 km), more often become fathers of girls. This is understandable, because not everyone can “throw” their potential into sports, and then arrange “fireworks” in bed at night.
Signs
In the matter of planning the sex of the baby, it was not without signs.
Why are only boys born? The sign says: if you conceived a child in the fall, you will receive a boy in nine months, in the spring - a girl.
Also, even before the ultrasound, they try to determine the sex of the child by the shape of the abdomen: “rounded” means a girl; “stretched out” means a boy.
If during pregnancy future mom can’t even look at meat - there will be a boy, if a woman terribly wants salty - there will be a girl.
Well, in general, a “joking” sign that does not pretend to be reliable: in families where the wife idolizes her husband, girls are born, and in couples in which the opposite is true, boys are born.
Is it worth it to strictly follow the principles outlined above?
One way or another, many of the described methods of planning a child revolve around the exact date of ovulation. That is why they do not justify themselves.
Any, even the most healthy woman menstrual cycle can change under the influence of a variety of reasons: stress, climate change, change in diet, etc. Therefore, it is problematic to determine the exact date of ovulation.
There are, of course, methods that are not based on maintaining an accurate calendar, but on measuring, say, basal temperature or determining the properties of mucus. But this approach is too "troublesome", and does not guarantee the exact result. As a result, the slightest mistake for 1-2 days will give the girl to the couple who were determined to have a son. And all sorts of signs and diets are generally an unreliable method.
To protect yourself from disappointment, it is better not to puzzle over why more boys or girls are born, but simply to rejoice at every child that is born. In the end, it is the wives of the princes of the blood who need to give birth to the heir to the throne at all costs. Are you a princess? So, you can just relax and love both newborn girls and boys equally.
There are quite a few families in which only same-sex children are born. For this reason, some spouses believe that they are not destined to give birth to a child of the opposite sex. Others do not give up trying and continue to give birth "at random" hoping for a miracle.
For many centuries, scientists have tried to identify factors that in any way can affect the sex of a child. The gender of a person is determined by the energy component of spermatozoa. The X chromosome is responsible for the female component of the unborn child, and the Y chromosome is responsible for the male component. The Law of Harmony, open, is based on the identification of the energy ratio in a married couple of X and Y chromosomes.
If in a certain period of time the X-chromosome of a married couple is more energy-intensive than the Y-chromosome, then a girl will be born in a couple, and a boy will be born in this couple when the energy intensity of the X-chromosomes is higher than the Y-chromosomes. To put it simply, the gender of the child is affected by the ratio of the potentials of the energies of the parents in time, which are determined by the law of Harmony.
How does the method of planning the sex of a child according to the law of Harmony work?
Everything in the world is energy, and every person, including, is an energy field. Each potential parent has his own range of energy vibrations, which is responsible for the gender of the unborn child. The ratio of the potentials of the energies of the father and mother of the unborn child has individual graphs - functions. Therefore, the Law of Harmony allows you to build graphic dependencies for the energies of parents for the entire period of intrauterine fetal formation.
